Transformation Lifetimes Created 6 December 2017 / Updated 1 September 2025 by adamf I was at my Buddhist center tonight and a friend asked me, “Adam, how are you doing?” And genuinely wanted an answer. I found myself saying, I am feeling grief. It comes in waves. Often I don’t even know what I’m crying about now – often there’s no story anymore. It is contact with sorrow […] Read more »
Transformation Running Through the Grief Created 24 October 2017 / Updated 1 September 2025 by adamf Even though I know things must be as they are, I am still struggling. The grief is coming in waves now, occasionally incapacitating me. That’s better than before, when I was overwhelmed for weeks on end. It’s still hard to surrender and accept that sometimes I am helpless because of it. Yesterday was a hard […] Read more »
Transformation The Wisdom in Dark Emotions Created 10 October 2017 / Updated 1 September 2025 by adamf Great article in The Lion’s Roar on the Wisdom of Dark Emotions: Knowing how our grief, fear and despair may be connected to larger emotional currents and social conditions de-pathologizes these emotions, allowing us to accept and tolerate them more fruitfully, and with more compassion for ourselves and others. We begin to see the dark […] Read more »
Transformation Uncategorized You Are Living in a Poem Created 24 September 2017 / Updated 1 September 2025 by adamf “You are living in a poem,” says poet Naomi Shihab Nye. “What do you mean, we’re living in a poem?” Or, “When? All the time, or just when someone talks about poetry?” And I’d say, “No, when you think, when you’re in a very quiet place, when you’re remembering, when you’re savoring an image, when […] Read more »
Transformation Grief Created 8 September 2017 / Updated 1 September 2025 by adamf I made a grief resources page. Read more »
Transformation Grief Resources Created 3 September 2017 / Updated 1 September 2025 by adamf Here are some resources that helped me in working with grief. I wanted to find a page like this when I started out on that journey. I hope it will be helpful to someone. Grief 101 – Some Common Facts and Characteristics of Grief – really good article that has a lot of information about […] Read more »
Poems Transformation Love Dogs Created 19 August 2017 / Updated 1 September 2025 by adamf One night a man was crying, “Allah, Allah!” His lips grew sweet with the praising, until a cynic said, “So! I have heard you calling out, but have you ever gotten any response?” The man had no answer for that. He quit praying and fell into a confused sleep. He dreamed he saw Khidr, the […] Read more »
Transformation Befriending Shadow Created 8 August 2017 / Updated 1 September 2025 by adamf Under an empty autumn sky Stretch endless wastes Where no one goes. Who is that horseman riding in from the west? –Wang Changling, eighth-century Buddhist poet The unacknowledged sides of ourselves hold tremendous power – both destructive power and creative power, sometimes both at the same time. David Richo starts his book Shadow Dance: Liberating […] Read more »
Transformation Transforming Grief Created 13 July 2017 / Updated 1 September 2025 by adamf One my touchstone books that I read as a child and many times since is The Wizard of Earthsea. I am no wizard, and life rarely has its adventures and stories wrapped up and resolved so neatly as books do. But one can still learn from them. In the book, Duny, a goatherd, grows up […] Read more »
Transformation Grief and Shadow Created 6 July 2017 / Updated 1 September 2025 by adamf I’ve been reading a lot of David Richo lately. He is a meditator and a Jungian psychotherapist and his books have a wonderful optimistic clarity about being human and the loss, growth, and joy that comes with it. He’s like a wise, kind uncle I never had. Right now I’m reading Shadow Dance: Liberating the […] Read more »