- Grief 101 – Some Common Facts and Characteristics of Grief – really good article that has a lot of information about grief and what to expect.
- Stages of Grief (or on Wikipedia)
You might go through some of these stages, maybe in different order, or in cycles – it’s not a linear progression.
- Denial – clinging to a false, preferable reality
- Anger – frustration, especially toward proximate individuals
- Bargaining – trying to avoid the cause of grief
- Depression – despair, being mournful
- Acceptance – embracing the inevitable, stable emotions
- self-compassion – Go as deep into self-kindness as you can. Feel your feelings, do kind things for yourself, it is ok to be less functional.
- prayer – Ask for help from assisting forces. You don’t have to pray to God – you can pray to your own Higher Power: the Universe, Life, Buddha Nature, or even a support group.
- meditation – Be with yourself and your emotions, listen to the Universe speaking to you.
- yoga – A gentle, mindfulness-based, body-centered way of healing.
- running – Running can be a spiritual practice. Moving your body and being with yourself helps you heal.
- journaling – Privately writing your feelings down can help you get clarity and let go.
- spending time with friends – Be seen, heard, cared for, and comforted.
- My posts on grief
- Other resources
Our society doesn’t make much space for grief. Grief is a natural part of life and takes time to heal from. You can take the time even if people around you may not relate. It’s ok to take care of yourself.
“Wanting things to be otherwise is the very essence of suffering.” – Stephen Levine